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Showing posts with label friends. Show all posts
Showing posts with label friends. Show all posts

Wednesday, May 8, 2013

To stand-out or to Blend-in and I chose the latter!


There you go I said, locking my flat 502 for the very last time and thus officially bidding bye to Manipal after two short years.. (yes, I mean two very short years). My mind was pre-occupied.. it was elsewhere.. it took me back to day one of the Manipal episode..

It was the month of August and I was already a month and a half late to college. It was the first day of my  life at Manipal, the first day of my class and I had this feeling of how my classmates would react on my entry. (infact, I was a little paranoid on how MANIPAL would be, whether I had to stand out or to blend in..) It was just about eight thirty and I walk into the class just to attract a few surprised looks. I chose to sit in the third row corner seat and every time a guy or gal walks into the class they pause n and were giving me weird confused looks (more like the “whose thaaaat gal kinda looks”) , with weird  people around me, I somehow I wanted to laugh at the situation, but by then Sir walks into the class. The first hour was Quants and it was more like the fast and furious class. In no time the first hour got over and then the second hour begins.. The actual beginning… the sense of liberation.

It was the second hour of the day and we have these groups and fortunately or unfortunately I ended up being in a all guys group… “The group 6”, with six guys and I being the only girl of the group. I was introduced to each of them. The guys felt that my entry would ruin their freedom and b-talk fun. But things were soon different and I was welcomed with open arms ( a lil bit of exaggeration here).. But yes, seriously things actually started happening...yes, the blending in, not only with the group but with the whole of Manipal. Be it the dreaded arguments with The Varun Jiii( G), or the fun of watching Roshan wake up between assignments.. :P .. (my stomach still aches when I think of that NP’s assignment in 502) or sitting hours together at IC and doing nothing at all!

Being Human to Being Animal to “Being Teacher”
I never thought that I would do something like that after thirteen long years. Yes, I danced! I performed on the stage along with my crazy friends for our annuals and to add to it, I was the dance teacher for my crazy naughty students. Of course the songs chosen were taporish! (Tilak, Chithresh, Abhi, Aadi, Shreyas, Shashank, Sankesh, Sachin, Manish, Rahul, Praju..) My god… these guys actually made me realize the level of patience I have.. I am proud of myself ..:P).. The unlimited fun we had during those days shall be cherished throughout.
It was then high time that we start studying.. it was now the time for real learning. Yes, it was exam time and I again continued my journey as a teacher..teaching the brilliant lot! ( :P.. let me admit.. I am actually being sarcastic!) God! It was not an easy task and I always prayed to god to gimme all strength and courage to face my students..who always had weirdest doubts making me dumbstruck!) but it was amazing.. the cooking in between the study, the tea breaks, Rathnamma’s dinner, and not to forget, trespassing into my own apartment.. (a weird case wherein the teacher had to literally jump off the compound wall and enter into her own apartment! )..

There's a first time for everything
First ever compering, winning cricket match, receiving medals on the victory stand, the beach volleyball, gazing at the stars in the midnight sitting by the sea, the marijuana and the holi, the crazy wacky night outs, playing for the university, etc…etc.. I owe it all to Manipal..

My college undoubtedly presented me with a lot of good memories and off course a few bad ones. I’m just glad that my good memories heavily outweigh the bad ones. Those countless “unofficial” tours, the post-exam celebrations, the movies, watching people wait in long queues at the aunty shop to take photocopies..  ( most of the times I was only a spectator coz I never believed in wasting money on photocopying and ofcourse the go green philosophy..!), allowing my assignments to be royally raped ( and for all the effort I make to sit and write those assignments, I used to score just one mark! ), those "Ganga"  birthday parties..( I think I have missed out two letters.. :P), those n number of sleepovers, bunking classes, striving so hard to meet the 75% attendance mark, the endless nights and then the eight o clock class, the early mornings by the beach, the heated debates on each and every small thing…..the cats and dogs fight with otrashi.. the cards, the destination X trips.. the house parties , screaming out my throat while standing on the car top... and the list just goes on and on. Not to forget,  Radhanand, Madhumalathi.. I am gonna miss you like crazy.. ( to add on to it, Lakewoods ( more like our rehearsal hall, and premier heights- all the four being our Manipal Basera!)

With so many emotions and memories I handed over the keys to the owner thereby closing the Manipal episode.

Sunday, April 1, 2012

“I hate it how your best friend dumps you when they find their new, best friend."


Falling out with friends is more traumatic than breakup. Surely, people come and go but friendships are supposed to last forever, right? I strongly used to believe that. Err, but I was so so wrong. 

By some means, after repetitive incidents that happened in my life, I have vagueness about the whole idea of “best friends”. Sometimes, you just have to face the reality. So, what happens when a person doesn’t even smile back at you who once used to be your best friend? It never occurred to me to think about it until one day. It was that day, when I noticed that my friendship with my childhood best friend.. started to fall apart. 

We had been together since LKG till class 9.  I thought we would always be there for each other. Little did I know that I was so wide off the mark. I felt that I should try to fix things but once you start speaking a different language, there’s not a whole lot one can do about it. It’s a call. It’s an alarm that it’s time to part. 
Something similar happened to me. We were not just friends but best of the best friends. Our friendship was not only known to all in my primary school but also in the high school. We were tagged as “the best friends”. To justify this, let me begin with a small episode. This was when I was in 1st standard and my school timings were from 8AM to 1PM. But every Saturdays I had my dance class, which started soon after class. So much did I plead her to join the dance class but she didn’t. Atlast I quit my dance class because we both had a common school auto and Saturday was the only day when I could go with her in my auto till her place and then my auto uncle would drop me home. (I would miss this chance, if I continued with my dance class) and mind you this is dated back to 1994. Such was my commitment .

We were put in different classes in sixth standard. We were crying, and the hollers didn’t end. But then we decided to take the same language as our elective and hence would be in the same class in class eight. And so did it happen. Finally we were back. I thought we were back for good but I had no clue what I had in store for me. Days rolled by, and I was in the TT team, and I badly wanted her to be a part of the team. I started carrying two TT bats, and taught her to play TT and ensured that she was the part of the girls TT team of my school as the 3rd player. We won the district level match but according to the rules, only first two players from the winning team could go to state levels. I tried my best but rules are rules and I had to abide by them.

But different was the situation when I returned from the match. She had changed her place, and was sitting with her NEW best friend. I was shocked, but still I went to her and I smiled at her. She smiled back but half-heartedly. Since I was absent for more than three days, I had lot of notes pending. I asked for her notes and she flatly denied. That was it. I never asked why? I never asked her why she changed her place, or why she doesn’t want to smile at me, or why she denied giving her notes to me. I just told to myself, she was not worth my friendship.
When my best friend, started to become the person that I hardly knew, I asked myself, do I even know this  girl? 

Friendship fall-out is painful. Ask the people around you and they’ll tell you that friends are as important as family. She alone was equal to my family. I needed her. I was all alone without her. It was hard to wave goodbye to my friendship that lasted for a decade.

No matter what reason she would give in, it’s hurt to end it. Either she had done the dirty on me, or we just simply grew apart. I think in my case, She and I had gone into our own separate ways of thinking. 
But it was a lesson learning experience.

A friend in need is a friend to be avoided.